Ah Yes! I think she knew. In the "we are best friends" scene, I remember he stares at her and she blushes - made me think about it. I've always thought she didn't appreciate his jealousy and exclusivity, you know. Snape as a boyfriend should have been quite a burden and she understood there had an unbalanced relationship, and quite a risky, potentially unhealthy relationship.
I think it's more like she'd realise, but not WANT to believe it ('cause she didn't feel about him that way, and since they were best friends it would've been a bit awkward ) so she'd tell herself they were just friends, and start believing it, too. So she'd be kinda oblivious, but kinda not, if you get what I mean... ...like repressing her own knowledge...
I don't think we can say for sure whether she would have grown to love him in that way or not. Love isn't exactly predictable. I agree that that's what drove her away, though. I stand by what I said originally, I think that's a fairly common thing that happens when there is one-sided attraction among friends. But we won't know for sure unless J.K. Rowling releases new information!
yeah i know someone like that. she's all but admitted she knows one of her besties is head over heels for her, but she never refers to it and acts as if she's oblivious. i guess she thinks that if she pretends it isnt happening, it'll go away. i think lily would have been like that. haha funnily enough, this friend of mine is a gorgeous redhead too :L
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